Adventures in Babysitting


Dear Dharma,

I’ve recently started babysitting again in my free evenings to help bring in a little extra money. There are a few new moms in my building that I’ve struck up friendships with, and through spending time with them and their children, I ended up offering to help when needed.

I used to babysit and lead day camps all through my teenage years, so at 25 it’s a job I’m comfortable with and enjoy. I’m happy, kids are happy, moms are happy, it’s all good.

The one hiccup I have is that spending my free time babysitting leaves me little time with my boyfriend (who I live with). Would it be a big deal to invite him over after while I’m watching the kids? He’s always literally just down the hall. I can understand why if I was a teenager this wouldn’t be a good idea, but this is a man I love and trust – he’s an accountant for goodness sakes. What are your thoughts?

Just Down the Hall

Dear Down the Hall,

Well, I mean, if he’s an accountant, then really… What’s the worst that could happen!

I agree that if you were a teenager this would not be a good idea.  Taking care of someone else’s children is a huge responsibility, and one that requires your complete attention.  And if there’s one thing I know for sure, when you’re a babysitting teenager and your boyfriend comes to visit, your attention is not on the children.  We’ll just leave it at that.

However, at 25 years old, I am assuming you to have a certain amount of maturity and level of responsibility, so I don’t think it should be a problem.

Except that it’s not my opinion that matters here.  You need to speak directly to the parents to ensure they are good with it.  Perhaps offer to introduce him so that they feel comfortable having him in their home.

Once you have their blessing, let me know where to find you so I can bring over my taxes… he’d be okay with that, right? 🙂



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1 Comment

  • Gassy Jack says:

    I got to say that chances are the families already know your guy too, since you all live in the same building. Just ask and i am sure they will be ok with it.

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