Little Red Corvette


Dear Dharma, 

Ok, this is going to be quick!  Every time my girlfriend gets in my car she complains about how dirty it is, and it is getting on my nerves.

First of all, I use my car for work, so yes, sometimes there are tools and stuff in the back, and I may have the remains of a fast food meal or two in evidence.  It’s not like she has to scrape crusty crap off the seat to get in though.

Secondly, I figure it’s my car and I can keep it how I want.  And I don’t think it is nearly as bad as she says anyways.  It’s more like if it isn’t perfectly detailed, it isn’t good enough for her.

I think she just needs to chill about, but how do I tell her that without starting a fight?

Filthy McCrusty

Dear Filthy,

We all have different standards when it comes to cleanliness, and it sounds like you and your girlfriend’s don’t match.  Not the end of the world by any means and hopefully you are better suited in the other arenas of your relationship.

There are only two options as far as I can see – one involves compromise and the other involves principal…

1) You make the effort to tidy things up before she becomes your plus 1 passenger – even if it’s not immaculate, I’m sure she will appreciate that you are trying to please her.

2) You let her know that her constant nagging on the topic hasn’t made your car any cleaner and that likely isn’t going to change.  Additionally, you could suggest that perhaps next time you take her car, which is likely kept more to her liking.

As much as I can understand the principal of the situation, which is you keeping your car the way you want to, it strikes me as a hill not worth dying on.  It would be nice if she would just look past the mess in order to keep the peace, but since you can’t control her behaviour, only yours, it might be worth the 30 seconds it would take to fix things up.


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