The Naked Gun


Dear Dharma,

I’m late 20’s and online dating.  Seriously, what is it with guys sending me pics of their dicks??

Not Even Kidding

Dear NEK(id),

Huh.  I wish you had given me a bit more context.  You’ve said you are online dating, so I get that you are not in a steady relationship with any of the guys sending you these pictures, and that this is outside of sexting within an actual relationship.  Making it the difference between solicited and unsolicited, right?

So is it part of their introduction, like “Hey, my name’s Richard, you’re pretty, here’s a dick pic.”  Or is it the follow up to a date, like “Had a magical time tonight, hope to see you again soon… oh, and here’s a picture of my dick…”

Are they at least taking the time to work with lighting and back drops?

As I thought long and hard about your question, the more I realized you aren’t asking me what to do about this, you are asking me why guys do this… and… I really don’t know the answer to this modern day cock-up.

I’m not a millennial, so we didn’t have sexting.  Back in my day, everyone had to draw their own dick pics with charcoal and send them by pigeon.  Because of this, I knew I couldn’t speak to your question with any degree of accuracy, so I started to ask around. I contacted a variety of people – male and female from all walks of life – and sent them a brief series of questions to see if I could come up with something helpful for you.

And Holy Hannah, the answers came pouring in – so much so that I immediately decided to tackle this in a completely different way.  And with that said, welcome to Dharma’s first ever week-long series, her first exposé, so to speak!

Starting tomorrow, we will dive deep into this plethora of information and attempt to unravel the mystery of the 21st century dick pic.  And hang on tight, it’s going to be a rough ride…




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Categories: Advice, conflict, Dating, Sex


  • Lee says:

    * spits coffee all over table and falls over laughing*

    Oh my god! I can’t wait!

  • Pervy Pete says:

    Who needs flowers anymore? A good dick pic is all you need.

  • Consuela says:

    I am SO excited for this weeks posts. I really don’t understand why some guys do this..
    There’s generally a TYPE of guy that does this and you can always tell the type of personality he has.. almost every time..Maybe it’s also an insecurity thing and they have to introduce you to the thing before you meet it for the first time in person… Well, sorry dude.. You’ve thrown that out the window after the dick pic.

    • Dharma says:

      Wait until you see the rest of the posts, Consuela – it may become a bit clearer… 🙂

      Thanks for the comment – and your sentiment is shared by many…

  • SK says:

    I’m looking forward to this series! I can’t wait to find out more about this mystery! Definitely a viral concept!! <3

  • Val says:

    A great way to screen guys. Works two ways one if he shows his dick it’s the type of guy you are not looking for. Or two he shows his dick and is what you are interested in so may as well check the merchandise before buying the date. Lol

  • Cinnamon says:

    They’re sending you them for FREE?? I usually have to pay for erotic pics ?

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