Nosy Neighbours


Dear Dharma,

Last year I moved into a house and since then I’ve been having issues with my neighbors and the concept of personal space.

At first it seemed like innocent curiosity and genuine interest in who I am.  They would ask me about my backyard and garden, about work and other neighbors.  Now, they ask me about my new patio furniture, why I came home late, and about a friend I had over.

It’s past the point of being unobtrusive curiosity.  I feel like I’m living with my parents again.

I don’t want to cause any problems in the neighborhood but it’s getting really awkward.

What do I do?

Under the Microscope

Dear Microscope,

I can see how that would be annoying.  Sometimes you just want to come home (with or without someone) and be left alone!

However, you have the ability to turn this into something fun!  Of course we know we don’t have a lot of power to change the behaviour of other people, but I’m sure we can come up with some witty responses to curtail their constant “curiousity”…

For example, when they ask why you came home late, you could say you are actually an undercover agent and are forbidden to talk about your missions.  Follow this with a sassy smile, a wink and a quick departure.

If they inquire as to any of your friends, tell them they’re not really your friends, if you know what I mean, and just leave them confused…

Point being, you can choose to be annoyed by these nosy neighbours and dread coming home every day, or you can find a way to let it roll off you.

And honestly, with enough comebacks like these, they will start to get the hint and focus their attention elsewhere.



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