The Terror of Bridezilla


Dear Dharma,

I come from a small family and we were overjoyed when my sister got engaged to an awesome guy… at first.

As her wedding planning tilted into gear she very slowly became a major bridezilla.

She has even gone as far as to dress my mother in the most hideous taffeta nightmare. My mom hates it and while she tried diplomatically to tell my sister that, my sister isn’t budging.

Now they are on either side of an immovable fence. My sister is saying mom can wear the dress or not come to the wedding and my mom is saying she won’t go.  Both are obviously very upset and I’m smack dab in the middle!

Help! Please!

Dealing with the Bride of Chucky

Dear Bride of Chucky,

Weddings and funerals – they bring out the frigging weirdest and worst traits in people.

Yeah, yeah, I know.  It’s your sister’s day, the biggest day of her life, blah blah blah.  All the magazines say she should have everything her way, and no one and nothing else matters.  So much so that it’s her right, her divine God given right!, to make everyone around her as miserable as possible.

Weddings and marriage are supposed to be about love and happiness.  The most important people in your sister’s world are spending countless hours and dollars to be there for her, and to not have an ounce of graciousness, of empathy… Gawd, it makes me mental!

Being dressed in a way that makes you uncomfortable in front of a room full of people is a terrible feeling.  Come on, you’ve been there, right?  Grade 4 pictures, dressed in a sailor’s suit with a missing front tooth?  Oh – sorry mom, that was me… No, I loved it, I did!

I’m just saying – are your sister’s wishes so important that they trump the feelings of her own mother (who, I’m just guessing, is likely picking up part of the tab for this fun filled day)?  She can’t honestly be in so deep that she feels good about this – to give your mom an ultimatum over a dress?

Time for an intervention.

Someone needs to talk to your sister about picking her battles – to talk some sense into her!  Is that person you?  Or her oh so lucky fiancé?  Give me her number, I’ll do it happily.

Your sister’s feelings of entitlement, while charming at first, I’m sure, have boiled over in a way that are going to haunt her forever once the lily scented mist clears.  Step in, or arrange for someone else to do so – and perhaps have some suggestions on hand as to a few dresses that your mom would be happy with so that Bridezilla has something to give in to.

Good luck.  Seriously.



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  • Ryan says:

    I don’t get these crazy bridezillas.. It’s like when they ask you to pay over $2000 to go to their destination wedding, then demand you pay for the dress, buy them a gift, and make you broke… Then pull things like this. Someone is going to get slapped…

    • Dharma says:

      Well hopefully someone can talk sense into this lovely lady and help her realize that having her mother at her wedding is so much more important than a dress.

      Thanks for the comment Ryan!

  • 20/20 says:

    Trying to decide to speak up or not is so hard!!! But do it. Seriously. I had the opportunity to speak up once to my sister’s wedding plans, but chickened out and I regret it to this day. The whole thing has caused quite a rift in an already troubled family and I feel like I could have done something about it.
    If you speak up, or get someone else to, and things stay the way they currently are, at least you can feel good about having tried.

    • Dharma says:

      Really good point, 20/20… I think banning your own mother from your wedding for simply not wanting to look like an idiot is bound to leave a residue. Hoping someone steps in sets Bridezilla straight…

  • justsaying says:

    Lol ! I vote to give her Dharma’s phone number hahahaha

  • Anon says:

    Omg brides are full of drama. I want a wedding where there’s no drama over clothing lol. Just seems so lame and unromantic.

  • Anonymous says:

    In a day and age where it isn’t taboo to shack up out of wedlock I think brides and grooms have to accept that a good portion of why they are having a wedding is for their friends and family.

    This bride needs to give her head a shake

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