Egg-stra Special

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Dear Dharma,

I am a single 30-something living in the city. I have a great job, great friends, and am proud that I am making it on my own in the insanity that is this overpriced city (Vancouver).

Would I like to find a partner and have children one day? Sure, but I’m not in a rush – lots of time, right? Well, not according to my mother. She is convinced that I’m going to die alone and is forever on me to sign up for online dating sites (which really isn’t my preferred method of meeting someone), or sending me photos of all of our other family friends who’ve had weddings, kids, etc.

She’s even asked me to talk to my doctor about freezing my eggs! I’m trying to take it in stride and brush it off by sharing with her all the good things that are going on in my life, but she just won’t quit. What’s a girl to do?

Freeze My Eggs??

Dear Eggs,

Wow.  This makes me realize how lucky I am that my own mom has quietly resigned herself to the fact that her grandchild is a beautiful and wonderful dog named Bob.

You have two choices here.  You can either continue to put up with the constant harassment or you can ask her to stop.  Both options are likely painful for you, you’ll just have to pick your poison.

Option A

I don’t have to tell you how to continue down this path, you already know what that looks like.

Option B

If you go with Option B, you wait until she starts her next schpiel about how Suzy just got married and is already pregnant – with twins, of course! – and politely cut her off with something like, “Mom?  I’m going to have to ask you to stop.  I appreciate your feelings on this topic, as you’ve made sure to share them with me many, many times, but enough is enough.   I get it.  You want grandchildren.  It will happen when it happens.  The degree at which you pressure me will not be what determines anything except how much I want to speak with you on this topic.”

She won’t like that initially, but that’s okay.  What matters is what she does next.  Should she continue to harangue you, I would politely let her know the soup is boiling over and that you need to let her go.  Each and every time until the behavior is corrected.

Dharma

 

 

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