Drop That Phone!



Dear Dharma,

I am in a bit of a pickle. I caught my mom sexting and it was NOT with my dad!

She has no password protection on her phone and while she was out in the garden I could see messages come in. It was hard not to look twice at the pictures flashing across the screen and I ended up seeing things I can’t unsee now…  wish I would have never touched that darn phone!

Holy shite! I am pretty open minded but boy does that woman have a dirty mind and apparently she has been getting it on with another dude.

I wouldn’t mind so much if the beneficiary of her juicy lingo was my dad who she has been married to for over 30 years and who still adores her like day one!

So. What do I do now? I don’t want my dad to ever find out this is going on and I need her to stop ASAP! Should I confront her? I don’t want her to decide now that it’s out in the open that she wants to leave my dad.



Dear Sandra,

Just so you know, I’m sure we can find some sharp objects to insert into your eyes that might help take away some of that pain.

But other than that, you are correct, you are in a bit of a pickle.  Because your mom is a grown up (albeit one with a dirty mind and a lack security sense), you can’t make her “stop ASAP” and you can’t control what she decides to do about her marriage…

However, it might be a good thing to try and protect your dad from finding out the same way you did, so I would say to her in a very direct way, “Mom – I really need you to put some kind of password protection on your phone, like, now, okay?”

Chances are she’ll figure out very quickly what you’re referring to, which of course could lead to a conversation about her texty sexty friend, whether you want it to or not.  Or maybe she’ll just turtle and pretend to know not of what you speak, hoping you’ll stay out of it…

If she does open up to you, to express you are concerned about their marriage is fine, and to really impress on her that your dad finding out about this would be devasting… but beyond that, this is a situation they are going to need to deal with without your direct involvement.



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