Playground Politics



Dear Dharma, 

My daughter is finally old enough to begin attending playgroups (amen!). However, this mean lots of new friends…

How do I ask other parents if they have vaccinated their children without it being awkward?

Not Scared of Needles

Dear Needles,

Ah, welcome to this next stage of your life where the whole wide world suddenly has influence over your precious little one!

The best way to handle this type of situation would be to offer up the information yourself and then gauge their reaction.

“So I know this can be a bit uncomfortable, but I just wanted to let you know that little Snoozy has had all her shots, so there’s nothing for you to worry about.  I assume the same for your little one?”

That’s not so bad, right?

Unless they don’t give you the answer you are looking for in response!

From there, you may not be able to avoid an awkward situation if you don’t want to mix the vaccinated with the non.

Just politely apologize and say you are not comfortable taking the risk, and that you hope they understand.

Interesting times, right?  I don’t recall this being an issue when I was a pup, that’s for sure!



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  • Irene says:

    Very difficult subject as there are such strident views on all fronts. Good call on your approach, though. But as equally noted, be prepared for a response that opposes your view. Furthermore… schools are beginning to mandate the requirement. I recall Chilliwack having a severe outbreak of chicken pox a couple of years ago due to the high number of families against vaccines.

    • Dharma says:

      Interesting comment, Irene, especially about some schools mandating vaccinations, I didn’t know that. I wonder how those who are against it handle that…

  • CJ says:

    I totally agree that there are strident views, but would say that they are mainly on the anti science side. It’s such a tough call, yes I know we are supposed to be respectful of other peoples opinions, but what do you do if that opinion is based on rubbish, and trying to point that out in any way leads to pitying head shakes and comments like “just read this article” or “stop believing the false mainstream media”.

    • Dharma says:

      I think there are equally as strong views on both fronts, especially if we look at the question that generated this discussion… a parent not wanting to expose their own to those who haven’t been vaccinated.

      Trying to point out that ones belief is based on rubbish may not be the best of ways to lead bees to honey – and they might be thinking the exact same of your views… which, again, is the crux of this whole thing.

      Thanks so much for your comment, CJ!

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