A Case of the Mondays



Dear Dharma,

This isn’t really the biggest problem in the world but I also wonder if people have these same thoughts too.

I work in an office with mainly women. Everyone obviously dreads dragging their butt out of bed on Monday morning after two days off, but it kind of bugs me that every single week is the same small talk when you walk in the door first thing in the morning.

“Hey, how was your weekend?”

“It was great and yours?”

“Mine was great too, BUT NOT LONG ENOUGH”

“Oh those weekends never are, Sue.”

This is just an example of office small talk. It didn’t bug me before… but now… when I hear the same thing over and over again it makes me a little twitchy.

I love that everyone is so nice and I’d rather that then everyone ignoring each other and being rude. People are just trying to be friendly. I’m not saying it’s a terrible thing but I feel like people need to get a little more creative. It just doesn’t feel sincere at times.

Do you have any small talk tips? Am I alone in this?

Monday Morning Blues

Dear Monday Morning,

Tell me you’ve seen the movie “Office Space”.  Tell me you have!  Cuz it sure sounds like somebody’s got a case of the Mondays.

There are a few movies out there that have sure shaped how Dharma views the world and Office Space is one of them.  It perfectly touches on how you are feeling and answers your last question – you are not alone!

I don’t know if knowing that helps you any, but it’s a start, right?

So here’s the thing about small talk.  It’s small talk.

Polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters…

It’s not designed to stimulate your intellect; it’s not designed to create close bonds.  It’s simply a socially acceptable nicety.  So I don’t think what you need are more tips on how to engage in that… it sounds like you and everyone around you is nailing it!

I mean, feel free to make a more sincere contribution to the morning routine in hopes that your co-workers respond in suit, but otherwise it kind of is what it is.

Instead of finding it twitchy and annoying, tell your brain to interpret it as predictable and endearing.  Otherwise, the next thing you know, you’ll be beating the crap out of a printer in an open field with gangsta rap playing in the background.  Seriously.  Watch the movie.

Another thing to entertain is maybe it’s time for a change.  When you start to find the familiarity of your surroundings a source of annoyance rather than a source comfort, it’s often a sign of something deeper.

Something to think about, right?



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