The Best Place for a Drug Dealer



Dear Dharma,

I have a unique situation and would love your input.

We live in BC and we all know we have the best bud…My sister in law has been unemployed for almost 2 years and she was getting desperate for work.

Anyhow, to make a long story short, she started selling pot. That eventually expanded to include other party drugs but never really strong/bad drugs. She herself does not use.

She is so much happier lately because her financial stress is resolved and she was able to move into a lovely home. The issue is, she wants to look after my kids at her house instead of our tiny apartment.

She says she never deals out of her home… am I crazy for considering letting my children go over there?

Yours truly,

Morally Conflicted

Dear Conflicted,

I hate to be the one to point out the obvious (actually, no I don’t!  I love pointing out the obvious!), but I think the actual leap has already been made here.

Your statement of “she wants to look after my kids at her house instead of our tiny apartment” sounds to me like your SIL is already a care giver for your children on a regular basis.

So… the decision to let a drug dealer take care of your children has already been made and is in play.  Are we just deciding on the locale now?

For sure you are heightening the risk by having them at her place… any of her clients could know where she lives and show up there anytime… or she may keep her… supplies somewhere the kids could gain access to… so yeah, not the best of situations…

So basically, I guess what I’m saying here is that if you are good with her profession as a whole, and feel comfortable with her taking care of your kids, then I would leave things as they are.

I would simply tell her the kids are more comfortable being in their own home, and you’re hoping she’s good with that.  If not, you totally understand and will start to make alternate arrangements for their care, if in fact that is your decision.



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